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Be Selfish, But Wise

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To be selfish is one of those traits we’ve learned to be negative since we were children. Remember hearing grown-ups say, “We have to share,” when all you really wanted to do was keep things to yourself? That was definitely a great piece of advice, but too much of anything runs the risk of being harmful. Because of this and similar reminders growing up, many of us have grown to put so much focus on the opinions of others and on putting others first.

Sounds harmless, but this can actually eat away at you fulfilling the dreams you’ve set for yourself, and in you reaching your greatest potential. It’s true that in Islam we are taught to consider others and want for our brothers what we would want for ourselves, but there are limitations to this because if we don’t secure ourselves, we can’t be our best for those we want to help and support. It’s like the question of whom you would help first if you were sitting on a plane beside an elderly person and a child, while the plane was falling towards a crash. Some would feel this is a dilemma of which of those two lives are more valuable. The correct answer to that question, however, is to first help yourself so that you can have the strength and ability to help both the elderly and child.

Balancing Giving Back

“Your body has a right over you, your eye has a right over you, your wife has a right over you, and your visitor has a right over you.” – Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

Personally, as I’ve strived towards helping as many people as possible with my life and time, I’ve struggled in finding a balance. I would often worry so much about helping others that I would end up finding myself with absolutely nothing left to keep myself going. It’s not just in monetary matters, but also in securing myself mentally and physically. I’ve always sought to follow the example of the Prophet (SAW) and his companions in how to help people, to the best of abilities. I remember once reading that the Prophet Muhammad (SAW) was so generous that it was as though he didn’t fear poverty. So, I strive towards being like that, not only in giving monetary charity, but also in helping people in any way I can. Truthfully though, it often leaves me drained at the end of the interactions.

Don’t get me wrong. I love helping people. It’s a core aspect of what makes me who I am and what makes me happy. But, the truth was indisputable. I needed to find some fuel. Unless I found a way to feed my mind, body, and soul, I would quickly drain myself of energy and would be of no use to anyone.

Soul Food

So, I began my search, first seeking out fuel for my soul, as that is what would give me strength in finding nourishment for the rest of my needs. As I ventured through my spiritual search, I found what I believe to be the answer to my concerns and the rapid drain of energy that would come from my efforts.

The solution was to make everything I do an act of worship; to find a way to make my intentions such that they would make everything I do be for the sake of Allah. I found that doing this gave me a greater motivation and discipline in doing things. I don’t get as tired, I always have energy to keep going, and I always feel good about what I do.

In addition to this, I began to strive towards purifying my thoughts and intentions. So, for example, my reason for gaining knowledge wouldn’t be solely because I believe knowledge to be a core source of power, but would also be because it is a command from Allah. This way, the more I learned, the more reward I was stacking up for the Hereafter. The same would go for when I helped others. If I strengthened the stability in my faith, it would give me ease and clarity when advising others.

The benefits of this approach, and truly running your every thought and action through the filter of Islam really helps towards finding inner-peace, happiness, and success.

Mental Massage

As I said, seeking knowledge has become one of the greatest things I have included as a part of my life. As I continuously grow in knowledge, I build wisdom with which I can advice and help others. I still have a lifetime of knowledge and wisdom to gain though, so I am in no way qualified to consider myself wise. But, my pursuit is towards never holding back from an opportunity for knowledge. More knowledge means more clarity, structure, and balance when helping others.

Physical Fuel

Something someone very important to me once said is that their reason for pursuing a healthy lifestyle and getting in shape is because, “This body and life is an Amana (loan) from Allah, so it’s my duty and responsibility to respect it and keep it in the best condition I can.” (That was paraphrased.) This was monumental in helping me shape my approach towards healthy living. If I meet someone who needs help in lifting something, or if I need to run somewhere in a state of emergency of helping someone, I would be much more helpful if I were in shape. When it comes down to helping people in any way, the better shape I’m in, the more energy I will have towards helping them. Allah has given me my body on loan, so I should use it in His service by being a benefit to humanity.

Please Him and You Will Please Others

The bottom line is simple. Please Allah, and you will end up pleasing others. Our ultimate goal is to get to Jannah (Paradise), and the beauty of Islam is that helping others AND helping our own selves counts for rewards in the Hereafter. We need to be selfish in that sense, such that we can be the best we can be to ourselves and thus the best we can be to others.

Be selfish in doing everything you can to follow the Quran and Sunnah. Be selfish in collecting as many good deeds as possible. Be selfish in doing whatever it takes to get to Jannah. Being selfish like this is beautiful, because in Islam, you can follow the Quran and Sunnah, collect as many good deeds as possible, and do whatever it takes to get into Jannah, just by being generous and helping others.

Consider it a double-dip in the Ajr (reward) Jar 🙂

Poem: She’s Not Perfect

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I often hear people in love,
as they speak about the ones they love.
They say odd things,
spouting out heavy words,
as though they are weightless.
“Perfection.”
“Flawless.”

The one I love?
Well, she’s none of those things.
She’s not perfect.
She’s not flawless.
She’s human.

See, she has thing about her,
an appeal that I can’t seem to understand.
She can be stubborn at times,
over the oddest of things
(but don’t tell her I said that,
otherwise she’ll eat me alive).
But, I love that about her.
Her stubbornness makes her a fighter…
in the good way, as her nature makes me want to be better.
When she is stubborn,
she makes me giggle – yes, me giggle…
but sometimes, she makes me furious.
Both because she becomes so passionate,
that nothing can stop her until she gets what she wants.
But, I intend on being her greatest feat of stubbornness,
as I, too, am made up of imperfections.
And it is together, that we make perfect.

At times, she’s indecisive.
Oh, how indecisive.
It flusters me often,
as I am very quick to decide,
and once I’m convinced,
it takes a lot to push me aside.

I guess that makes me stubborn too.

Her, she is indecisive,
and stubborn – a deadly combination.
But, I love that about her.
I like to watch as she tries to figure things out.
I sometimes imagine her scrunching up her nose,
thinking and coming up with ideas,
and sometimes coming up with nothing
more than a deeper confusion.

You see, I’m not perfect either.
Of that, I can assure you.
I try to be the best I can,
but in the end, I remain human.
But, I have an objective.
A goal, a vision.
To be the one that can relieve her.
The one who untangles her mind
when over thinking leaves her in knots.
The one who, when I am the cause of distraught,
can embrace the opportunity to make her feel better.

And why do I hold this objective?
Because she does these same things for me,
whether she knows it or not,
even when sometimes, she causes these knots.

But, she’s worth it.

Now, I won’t claim the expected,
that our imperfections make us perfect for each other.
The fact is, we’re both a mess.
We’re imperfect.
We’re flawed.
We’re human.
There may even be someone out there,
for each of us,
that might be “perfect”
on paper,
or in the thoughts of others.

But, what makes us,
is that despite all of that,
we love one another.

Copyright © Nadir Keval

Touched My Heart

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It’s only been a month or so since I relaunched my website, and already, I’m getting feedback that is inspiring me towards continuing, Alhamdulillah. I wanted to write this post as my way of saying thank you to those who told me about the impact my poetry and my other words have inspired them, impacted them, or helped them through a struggle they were going through. Here are just some of the things that were said:

I’m glad I found your tumblr again which lead me to your main blog. I pretty much have read just about every post lol. Masha’Allah for everything you write, from your poems to your personal blog posts. I find myself nodding in agreement or empathizing in some way or another when reading your posts. Your poems have made me smile, reflect, and sometimes tear up. Alhamdulillah for this great gift Allah has bestowed upon you, the gift of being an artist with your words and emotions and being able to express yourself through the pen. May Allah bless you immensely.

 

I’m enamored with your mind, through your poems.

 

Mashallah. That was awesome. Kinda expected you to be a great writer due to how you respond to things. And think.

My intention behind showing these things isn’t in any way to be arrogant. May Allah protect me and all of us from having even a speck of pride on our hearts when we pass. Ameen. But, rather, it’s to show appreciation for the people who have helped me in seeing that I am making some difference in people’s lives, even if it’s for a moment. I hope to continue to do this as I continue to work towards building my projects, Insha Allah. If there is anything you guys would like for me to address, or talk about, please don’t hesitate to ask. You can ask through Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, or email. Also, a special thanks to my friend over at the Beauty Of Islam blog who always supports me and shares my posts when she feels they will benefit the Ummah that follows their blog. Jazakallahu khairun. (I don’t have to state her name. She knows who she is.) As for everyone else, thank you again, and I hope that I can continue to share my thoughts and experiences with you all so we can grow together. And I hope that I can touch your hearts, just as you have touched mine with your kind and generous words.

A Quarter Of A Century

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At least that’s what my baby sister calls it. For the last couple of weeks leading up to today, she’s been teasing me saying that I’m turning a quarter of a century. And today, it’s happened.

I’m usually not big on birthdays, and this year isn’t very different in celebration and things like that. It’s not my thing to celebrate it, mostly because there’s a difference in opinion when it comes to whether or not celebrating birthdays is allowed or not in Islam. As a personal rule of thumb, if there’s anything in which there’s a difference in opinion amongst the scholars, and after doing my research, I still find it would be safer to leave the thing for the sake of Allah, I leave it. Anyways, that’s not the point of this post.

The point of this post is to talk about how I’m now in the 25th year of my life, and I’d really like to evaluate things and see how far I’ve gotten with my goals; if the things I had hoped for have become a reality, and if I still want the things I had hoped for. It’s time for me to re-evaluate where I’m at with life, and where I want to go.

For the last year or so, I’ve gone through quite a few struggles in growing as a Muslim, person, entrepreneur, and goal seeker. I had hoped that today, a Dua that was made by someone very important to me last year on October 17th would have been answered, and I’d be spending this day and the lifetime to come with my wife. But, as I thought about this, I recognized that this is merely a day in my life, and that if I want something, I shouldn’t put a timeline on it. Instead, I should keep making dua for what I’m seeking if it’s what I truly want, ask Allah for guidance and patience, and then, let things flow. Not a single day has passed since May 4th of last year (when I became truly serious about marriage) that I haven’t made dua asking Allah for guidance, patience, success, and ease in getting married to the woman that will be best for bringing out the best in me, in the matters of this life and the Hereafter. As is the prerequisite for Dua being answered, I hold complete conviction that Allah will make my dua a reality, or will replace my dua with something better, insha Allah. I will continue to make dua until He helps me and the woman I’m supposed to marry, insha Allah, find the courage, strength, and faith to take the leap of faith and pursue marriage, without concerns of what’s to come in the future because our conviction in faith that Allah will take care of us. At first, I was hesitant about pursuing marriage, but the Salatul-Isthikhaarah I prayed in May last year has repeated itself every single time since with a positive answer in this respect, and so, I’ve decided to hold strong to my faith and not give up, insha Allah. If this isn’t right for me, I know that Allah will remove it from my heart. Until then, I refuse to give up. Please make dua that I find success and ease with this, insha Allah 🙂

This pursuit of marriage, along with my ambitions and efforts towards entrepreneurship, Da’wah (the relaying of the teachings of Islam), and getting into shape, have helped me monumentally in becoming a better Muslim. I can’t express to you how much of a roller-coaster this last year has been with my Imaan (faith). I won’t go into details because I believe that is one of those things that should always be kept between you and Allah, and maybe with your spouse (for the sake of support), but this year definitely took its toll, and it still does. Every day, I wake up and wonder if I’ll have the opportunity to live through the day, because when death will come is uncertain. All we can do is our best, and make the most of every moment. If there is something you’re afraid to do, or something you feel uncertain of, take the leap of faith, and live! I know I always talk about taking a leap of faith, but honestly, it’s so important in living life to the fullest. We often live in fear of not living up to, achieving, or finding perfection in all we do and embrace as a part of our lives. We worry that we don’t deserve things because we think that we won’t be able to live up to the blessings Allah has given us. But, that’s not the case, because had it not been something we could have handled, Allah wouldn’t have blessed us with it! Embrace your blessings, and don’t question why you got it! Instead, do whatever it takes to embrace and show your gratitude to Allah for those blessings!

When it comes to my career, I’ve learned that pursuing your dreams, and shutting down (and if possible, removing yourself from the company of) naysayers is very important. So many people constantly tell me that I will not succeed, and that I won’t be able to achieve the goals I’ve set out for. They say it’s out of my scope of abilities, skills, and talents. They say I’m wasting away my life, while others are out there having jobs at big companies and starting families, while I’m sitting here trying to build something out of nothing. What I’ve learned is that those comments are irrelevant. All the power to those who are able and comfortable to live with nine-to-five jobs, but that’s not for me. I like to be in control. I like to feel that I am in charge of my own destiny. I am as successful as I’m willing to work towards being. (Of course, this is all with the Help and Provision of Allah, of course.) I’m not saying that’s not possible without being an entrepreneur. I just personally feel that I’m limited through having a “job”. I work whenever I want. I don’t have to clock in and out. I love what I do, and if I start to get tired, frustrated, or irritated by something I’m doing, I remind myself of my ultimate goal, and it reignites the fire in my heart towards pushing harder and further towards my dreams. So, to naysayers, I say, “No.”

As a person, I have also seen myself grow a lot in the last year. I used to be weak in confidence, patience, optimism, and overall drive. I had the ambition, but I lacked the drive to push forward. I used to be confident, but things happened in the last year that shattered my confidence time and time again. That shattering, however, only lead to me rebuilding my confidence stronger each time, Alhamdulillah. My patience was tested like never before this year, and even today, I still get tested with patience in the same matters that have tested me this entire year. But, with practice comes perfection. Allah has answered all of my prayers so far, so I have no reason to doubt that He will answer what is yet to be answered. Optimism has been my greatest friend in this process of ups and downs in faith and in the events of my life. Optimism is so much better for the heart, mind, and soul. Alhamdulillah for the advice of the Prophet (SAW) to be optimistic. It makes peace come with far more ease. Alhamdulillah times a million.

As I wrote this post, I came upon the realization that I haven’t fully answered the question of where I’m headed. That’s because I don’t know. I do, however, feel that the answer lies in between the sentences, words, and letters of this post, as each one signifies the variety of my life, and how things will fall into place as they will. My only task is to do right by Allah, work hard towards my dreams, and never give up until I’ve achieved what Allah places in my heart. Simple as that. Life is simple. I don’t want to complicate it.

Today, I have gotten a year closer to my death. The Day I will return to my Lord, with a record I can either be proud of or ashamed of. On that Day, I will depend on His Love and Mercy to grant me an entrance into Paradise. Until that Day, I need to prove my love to Him, so that I’d be deserving of Paradise. Today, I don’t celebrate – I reevaluate, thank Him for 25 years of opportunities, pray for another 100 years to keep trying to please Him, open my eyes to the reality of life’s fleeting nature, and grasp my heart and hands on what will help me in the Eternal Life.

Is A Business Plan Really Necessary?

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When I first began in the business world, I thought that the business plan was the most important factor to any business’ success. I heard about statistics that would tell me that 80 or some other huge percentage of businesses that started without a business plan failed within the first year. That’s not something I liked hearing, especially considering how building the weight and responsibilities attached to something usually deters me from doing it. I like to always simplify things in my mind and remove the pressure from my mind so that I can address it with a clear mind. That’s may just be me though.

Regardless, as a person who often looks over his business plans to make sure his businesses are sticking to the vision they had set out to accomplish, I am starting to realize that using that business plan is actually limiting the lengths my visions would go to. It would limit my imagination and ambition, because it would bring it statistics, thoughts of competitors, and all of that nonsense, which would leave me at a plateau of confusion.

One of the greatest pieces of advice I have heard time and time again from friends of mine that are successful in their businesses AND are very happy, is that if you are passionate about something, relaying that passion is truly the key to finding success in your business. Love what you do, and you’ll never work a day in your life. Not only have I heard this from friends, but when I would watch/read interviews with some of the most successful business people in the world, they all said the same thing.

So, how does this reflect in a business plan? In order for imagination and creativity to truly soar to their greatest lengths, they can’t be limited by drafted thoughts and ideas. Instead, they need to be set free, and allowed to flow in the directions life takes them. With the rapid growth and change of our society and the world of business, making some really long business plan, created over a span of days, weeks, months, or even years (yes, I’ve seen people take that long), is truly useless. By the time you finish writing the plan, your demographic, industry, etc. all would have changed.

When I think of a business plan, I think that it should be kept to simply expressing what the name implies: a plan for your business. That should answer basic questions, and shouldn’t go beyond a couple of pages (not the 150 or so pages I’ve seen with some businesses!). Here are the questions I ask myself when I write and re-evaluate my “business plans”:

  1. Why am I starting this project/business? Ask yourself what your vision is, and try to maintain this vision throughout the process of owning your business/project. Far too often, we forget our initial visions when our businesses become successful. Never forget why you started this. Reminding yourself of this vision will keep you grounded and focused.
  2. What do I want to provide to my audience? Figure out what it is your audience needs in order for you to fulfill your vision.
  3. How will I provide these things to my audience? Now that you know what you want to provide to your audience, ask yourself what venues and methods you can use to make your vision known, as well as how you can provide them the products and services they need to experience what you have envisioned for them.
  4. What will it cost me to provide these things? Figure out how much it will cost you to provide your products or services. This is the stuff that’s more “business-y”, but unfortunately, it’s necessary to keep you aware of what’s happening with your business/project, and how well you can truly provide your audience with what you hope to.
  5. How will I cover my costs? You are only as valuable to others as you make yourself to you. Basically, if you aren’t taking care of yourself and your costs, you won’t be able to give your audience the best version of you, and that’s dangerous not only to your business, but to your physical and mental health as well. Figure out what amount of money you need to cover your costs at the most basic level. If you’re anything like me, thinking about big numbers of clients and how much it’ll cost you to maintain your business will leave you feeling incredibly intimidated and vulnerable. Keep it simple, and know what you need to know at the most basic level.
  6. How do I give back to my community with my business? One of the things I’ve always believed in with all of my projects and companies is that it’s incredibly important to give back to the community in some way or other. Giving back always lead to more success, because not only are you helping people through their struggles, but you also feel more satisfied, and you get more clients coming your way after seeing that you’re not just about the money, but that you actually care.

Well, these are just some of my tips towards planning for your business. Keep it simple and don’t be the cause of your own panic attacks. Life is about experiences, and living them out in the best way possible. You have a vision, go after it, and make it a reality. And constantly remind yourself of your passion for it, and experience life. As I always tell my clients, “People spend too much time making a living that, in the process, they forget to actually live. Don’t be like those people. Remember to live.”

Poem: Rain and Thunder and Rain

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Do you hear it?
The thunder?
I hear it every day.
Come rain or shine,
I hear it.
It sends a vibration through my veins,
pulsating my heart,
and ultimately seeping into my soul.

I try to find solace through faith.
Through prayer and the remembrance of Allah,
I find strength against the whispers of Shaitaan.
The thunder shouts at me.
It tells me that I will fail;
that my pursuit is a lost cause.
Every time it yells,
it makes my heart shudder.
Every time it goes silent,
I fear the time it will return.

I try to find solace in the rain.
Through every drop and the coolness it brings,
I find contentment with the thunder.
Shaitaan shouts at me.
He tells me that I will fail;
that my pursuit is a lost cause.
Every time he yells,
it makes my heart shudder.
Every time he goes silent,
I fear the time he will return.

Do you hear it?
The rain?
I hear it every day.
Come thunder or drought,
I hear it.
It sends a sense of calm through my veins,
massaging my heart,
and ultimately seeping into my soul.

Copyright © Nadir Keval

Facing Your Greatest Opponent: YOU

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In my experiences, I’ve found there to be two major types of competitors: those who compete with others to be the best, and those who compete with themselves in order to constantly better themselves. Personally, I have always found that those who were of the latter category were the ones who were happier and more successful in the long run.

Eventually, everyone gets defeated at something or the other. More often than not, this leads to disappointment and a sense of weakness overwhelming the mind and body. Sometimes, this defeat inspires you to try harder at becoming better, and even if you beat your last opponent, eventually, you will be defeated again, if not by that same person, then by another. It will be a never-ending cycle.

Let’s say you don’t get defeated and instead, beat everyone you face. Eventually, you’ll run out of opponents. Then what? And now, your heart will have become filled with arrogance and pride for having overcome everyone and being the “best”.

Obviously, this can’t be set as a generalized concept, because everyone reacts to things differently, based on their personality and circumstances. However, I am one to believe in recognizing and planning for the worst, but hoping for and working towards the best.

Resolve: Challenge Yourself

When you face an opponent, you set your standards according to their skill level, their history of success, and so on. Basically, they determine your value in that competition. We may think that by beating that opponent, we would become stronger, but the truth is, we wouldn’t. All we would have proven is that we were able to outdo someone that was perhaps not as fit as we were, physically, emotionally, mentally, or spiritually (depending on the challenge at hand). Instead, if the focus is put on evaluating your own strengths and working on solidifying them, you will find that you will always have a chance to grow.

THAT is the greatest challenge, because it’s about more than just the specific skill or talent at hand, but it makes you tap into facing your own weaknesses, and overcoming your own pride and stubbornness in thinking that by facing this challenge, you would be defeated by your own self. Competing against yourself humbles you.

There is more awareness of your opponent when you are your own opposition. You know your strengths and weaknesses better than anyone else does, so you know what you need to work on and what you need to remove from your life. This, however, can become challenging when we see our weakness as parts of ourselves that can’t be overcome. This is something that won’t help in your future or your growth.

Beating The Old You

Weaknesses should be worked on and overcome. If you struggle with confidence, push yourself to overcome it by waking every morning and telling yourself that you are confident and can overcome your fears. If you struggle with being stubborn, remove it from your heart by doing what you’re stubborn about not doing. If you’re indecisive, take a step towards one of the decisions, and let life flow towards what’s best for you. In all these situations, truthfully, what do you have to lose? Have faith and take a leap! Don’t let fears, pride, or worries cloud your judgment. Be strong in who you are and take a step. God will show you the rest of the way.

Often, the greatest thing that holds us back from succeeding and moving forward with our lives after experiencing something life-changing, is our own soul.

“The greatest Jihad (struggle) one will face is the struggle against his own soul.” – Prophet Muhammad (SAW)

When you are your own greatest opponent, you will always have a challenge to face, because we are human, and humanity is flawed and always in need of improvement. Use this to humble yourself and as your motivation to work harder towards becoming a better person.

As you grow, the challenges you faced in the past become easier to face if they approach you again, and they seem simpler than what you face today. This is beautiful, because it makes you realize that you are capable of overcoming your struggles. It also reminds you that regardless of what you face, God will never burden you beyond your abilities.

“Allah does not charge a soul except [with that within] its capacity. It will have [the consequence of] what [good] it has gained, and it will bear [the consequence of] what [evil] it has earned. “Our Lord, do not impose blame upon us if we have forgotten or erred. Our Lord, and lay not upon us a burden like that which You laid upon those before us. Our Lord, and burden us not with that which we have no ability to bear. And pardon us; and forgive us; and have mercy upon us. You are our protector, so give us victory over the disbelieving people.” – Quran (2:286)

As humans, we should constantly be striving towards becoming better as people first before we work towards becoming better in our careers, knowledge, health, etc.

The key to succeeding and finding ease in becoming better as people is through building on our faith and closeness to God. God is the Ultimate Provider of everything, and it’s through Him that we are able to do the things we do. So, it is important for us to worship Him and thank Him for all that He does for us. When we do this, we will find that Allah provides us with what we seek. All we have to do is ask.

“And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me – indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided.” – Quran (2:186)

The Prophet (SAW) told us that Allah said:

“My slave does not draw near to Me with anything more beloved to Me than the religious duties I have enjoined upon him, and My slave continues to draw near to Me with supererogatory works so that I love him. When I love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, his sight with which he sees, his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask [something] of Me, I would surely give it to him, and were he to ask Me for refuge, I would surely grant him it.” (al-Bukhaari, 6502)

When you challenge yourself, you are facing the greatest challenge you can, which is to overcome your own pride, stubbornness, fears, weaknesses, and more. You become stronger in faith as well, because taking steps towards things that are held back or put aside because of these factors you struggle to overcome is only possible through having more faith and reliance on God. Reflect on who you are and what your strengths and weaknesses are, especially in your faith. Then, take the leap and challenge yourself to become a better you!

And from all of this, you will gain one the greatest victories: inner-peace.

Poached Eggs on Spinach and Tomato Oatmeal

Poached Eggs on Spinach and Tomato Oatmeal 2000 1500 Nadir Keval

Made a meal inspired by @instagramfitness and @cherie_amour05. My pic doesn’t look anywhere near as good as the one they posted does, but here’s my first attempt at it. It was my first time making poached eggs at home, which were then topped on to a bed of oatmeal, spinach, tomato, ground flaxseed (I include these in almost every meal because of the great health benefits flaxseeds hold), oregano, ground black pepper, red chilli powder, and a pinch of salt. Now, it’s time for me to dig in and enjoy! 😀 If you try it out, be sure to share your experience and thoughts with me! 😀

Recipe

Ingredients

  • 2 eggs
  • Water
  • 1 tbsp vinegar
  • 2 packets or 56g of Regular Quaker Instant Oatmeal (I just find it easier to portion this way)
  • 2 tsp olive oil
  • 27g raw spinach
  • 81g tomato
  • 1 tsp oregano
  • 1 tsp ground flaxseed
  • To taste: ground black pepper, red chilli powder, and salt

Instructions

  1. Place eggs in ramekins or small bowls – one per bowl. The point of this is to let them come to room temperature, which helps in the cooking process.
  2. Fill a deep pan, 2 inches deep with water.
  3. Add 1 tbsp vinegar. The vinegar helps in the egg whites staying intact and not scattering while cooking in the water.
  4. Place on stove at a heat that is not too hot and not too cold. I determined the heat by putting it at medium heat until I saw bubble forming in the water on the bottom and sides of the pan. I brought it to a lower heat, and adjusted it to the point where the bubbles remained, but they stuck to and didn’t detach from the bottom and sides of the pan.
  5. Put eggs in the water, one at a time, by placing the edge of the bowl in the water, and slowly dropping the egg in.
  6. Allow to cook for 2-3 minutes, ladling the cooking water over the eggs.
  7. When the egg whites become white and are no longer clear, spoon out the eggs and place them on a few sheets of paper towel, to let the excess water drain off of the eggs. If the eggs got stuck to the bottom, use a spoon to lightly lift the eggs off the pan bottom, and then take the eggs out.
  8. Using a strainer, pour out the rest of the water, so that you are left with the leftover egg whites from the water (if there was any).
  9. Place the strained egg whites on the paper towel with the poached eggs.
  10. While the eggs dry, use the pan again to cook the spinach and tomato oatmeal.
    • Put olive oil in pan, allowing to heat
    • Place cut spinach and tomatoes in heated oil
    • While vegetables heat, cook instant oatmeal in the microwave according to the instructions on the package, using water
    • In the pan with the vegetables, throw in the oregano, flaxseed, chilli powder, salt and pepper
    • After oatmeal is cooked in microwave, mix it in with the vegetables
  11. Once cooked, spoon the oatmeal into a bowl.
  12. Slowly take the poached eggs off of the paper towels, and place on the oatmeal. I would suggest placing it in such a way that the egg yolks lean TOWARDS the center of the bowl, to make it easier to incorporate some egg into every bite.

And that’s it! Enjoy!

Poached Eggs on Spinach and Tomato Oatmeal

Have Patience, My Friends

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Patience. Perhaps one of the greatest struggles we face as humans living in a world where we have become accustomed to instant gratification. In days of old, to travel from one place to another, people would spend months traveling by foot, horse, boat, or whatever they’d be blessed enough to have. Those same distances are now traveled within a matter of a few hours. Yet, we complain that we our flights are too long, that we don’t get the luxurious trips we “deserve”, and so on. Lovers would write to each other and sometimes have to wait weeks or months to hear from one another. Now, if we don’t get a text message back within minutes, we get upset and start to over-think and over-analyze things, leading us to break our relationships to pieces, because we were too impatient.

Being patient is incredibly important, and Allah has made that very clear in the Quran as well, where He says:

“And obey Allah and His Messenger, and do not dispute and [thus] lose courage and [then] your strength would depart; and be patient. Indeed, Allah is with the patient.” – Quran (8:46)

“But if you are patient – it is better for those who are patient.” – Quran (16:126)

“If good touches you, it distresses them; but if harm strikes you, they rejoice at it. And if you are patient and fear Allah , their plot will not harm you at all. Indeed, Allah is encompassing of what they do.” – Quran (3:120)

“Indeed, he who fears Allah and is patient, then indeed, Allah does not allow to be lost the reward of those who do good.” – Quran (12:90)

“O you who have believed, persevere and endure and remain stationed and fear Allah that you may be successful.” – Quran (3:200)

“But they never lost assurance due to what afflicted them in the cause of Allah , nor did they weaken or submit. And Allah loves the steadfast.” – Quran (3:146)

“And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient, who, when disaster strikes them, say, “Indeed we belong to Allah , and indeed to Him we will return.” Those are the ones upon whom are blessings from their Lord and mercy. And it is those who are the [rightly] guided.” – Quran (2:155-157)

“And seek help through patience and prayer, and indeed, it is difficult except for the humbly submissive [to Allah]” – Quran (2:45)

“Indeed, I have rewarded them this Day for their patient endurance – that they are the attainers [of success].” – Quran (23:111)

There are so many more examples of this, but I think these paint the picture I’m trying to portray. Patience is something that comes with its benefits, including the reward of Jannah and the Companionship and Help of Allah. So, really is there really anything more enticing and inspiring than that? What more could you want? With those two benefits, you get happiness and success not only in this life, but in the Hereafter, as well! Allahu Akbar! (Allah is the Greatest!)

To Build Patience, First…

  1. Have Faith: This is the most important factor in pretty much everything we pursue, but with patience, it is even more crucial, because it lays out where we will go with the next steps. I have experienced an attempt at patient with and without patience, and to be honest, without faith, patience is not only impossible, but its absence breaks a person at the very core of their being. With faith, however, it feels no worse that a small pinch of nerves every once in a while.
  2. Be Grateful: Look at everything you have in front of you, and consider the fact that Allah has given you so much more than He could have chosen not to give you. No one can look at life, especially as a Muslim, and think that they are not blessed in one way or another. Even if you are a person who has nothing more to his name than the clothes on his back and the faith in his heart, you should consider yourself blessed, because with every moment of struggle you face, Allah is purifying your sins, based on the Hadith of the Prophet (SAW): “No fatigue, nor disease, nor sorrow, nor sadness, nor hurt, nor distress befalls a Muslim, even if it were the prick he receives from a thorn, but that Allah expiates some of his sins for that.”
  3. Be Hopeful: To know for a fact that Allah will answer your Dua (supplication) is a prerequisite to your Dua being answered. Know, without a shadow of a doubt, that will ease your struggle, and will not place on you a greater burden than what you can handle. If you feel like you can’t handle it, remind yourself that Allah knows you better than you know yourself, and that for this reason, He will certainly give you the tools you need to get through what you’re facing.
  4. Be Optimistic: As you go through your struggles and challenges, remember that Allah has a reason for all that is happening to you, and that there is a positive benefit to come from you facing what you face. He will get you through this, so don’t stress, and put on a smile because you know you have plenty of reasons to.
  5. Be Content: Try to avoid thinking of the reasons for Allah putting you through your struggle, or what lessons you have to learn from these experiences. Instead, reflect back on them after you have learned the reasons from Allah revealing them to you. Stressing about Allah’s plans and reasons won’t do you any good. Just know that He won’t let you down as long as you trust in Him.

Some practical ways to build on your patience:

  • Fasting: Personally, this has helped me to so many degrees in maintaining my patience, that I don’t have enough words to express it. It has and still does help me in my pursuits and ambitions towards becoming a better Muslim, towards my projects, towards getting married to the woman of my dreams, towards reaching my goals in health and fitness, and in finding my path in this world.
  • Doing more Nawafil (voluntary acts of worship): This will help us in training ourselves towards making Allah our greatest priority, and as a result, will increase our faith and closeness to Allah, which in turn, will increase the ease and guarantee in Allah’s response to our pleas of His Assistance and Blessings. Ask yourself, how quickly do you rush out of the masjid or away from Salah (prayer) after you have completed your Fard (mandatory) Salah? Often, we don’t take the time to pray the Sunnah or Nawafil prayers because we’re rushed to get back to work, are about to miss the beginning of a show on TV, or something like that.
  • Meditation: This is something that many scholars debate about, but the meditation I use to calm my mind and bring me back on track with my patience and focus is one that is very simple and unrelated to any religious meditation. It was actually suggested to me by a very good friend, who also said it helped in one’s focus in prayer. To do this simple meditation practice, sit down in a quiet place and close your eyes and slowly count to 10. Every time you have an external thought enter your mind, you have to start from 1 again. Do this as a way to clear your mind of clutter, and to bring yourself back to peace, so that you can calmly approach your struggle and test with patience and optimism.

This really only covers the bare basics of the topic of patience, and still, I feel as though I haven’t even reached that degree yet. But, I believe that this is a good start, and hope that with time, as I learn more, I will be able to share the lessons I experience with all of you. If any of you have some positive feedback, or some more pointers on what else can be discussed on the topic, then by all means, share away 🙂

May Allah make us all amongst the patient, so that He may be pleased with us and so that we can be amongst the dwellers of Jannah. Ameen!

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